fundazzle

The girls and I have been frequenting Fundazzle, a fantastic indoor playroom, since it opened last summer. Because the outdoors is so often undesirable or downright dangerous for us to play -- due to heat, rain, wind, or (most often) pollution -- I am really thankful for this big, clean, safe, semi-convenient, and relatively cheap place for TJ to get some energy out and Avery to smile at strangers.

It's here that I really see my two children's unique personalities shine. I've posted a couple of videos that capture their typical Fundazzle activities pretty well:

And here are some photos from the day as well.

exploring a bit

making new friends

eating, always eating

smiling

relaxing

running

zooming

only time she stops moving is for a water break

Holiday Recap

Since I failed to post updates after each holiday we've celebrated recently, I thought I'd just throw them all together into one post. We'll start with Halloween, which we celebrated with jack-o-lantern painted mandarin oranges, costumes at music class, and then a fun trick-or-treat tour organized by my friend around her apartment compound. A bunch of kids and just a few pretty close stops (4 building lobbies and the gate guard station) made for the perfect amount of candy and walking for TJ and her friends.

 Then came Thanksgiving, which we celebrated three times! On Thursday, just a regular workday for Matt (which meant he wouldn't be joining us for dinner), I made glazed carrots and roasted brussels sprouts and ordered a rotisserie chicken for a Thanksgiving-ish meal for me and the girls. On Friday, Bompa came over and we celebrated the football portion of the holiday: replays of all of the games, a special cheeseburger dip that Bompa made, and some quality guitar duets. Finally, Saturday we had our third annual traditional Thanksgiving dinner hosted by our American friends, and attended by Italians, Australians, and Chinese friends. For this one I made an apple pie and two classic casseroles, green bean and sweet potato.

sweet potato casserole topped with pecans in back
green bean casserole with homemade onion rings in front

Finally it was on to Christmas. Even in our short time in Shanghai, we have seen a huge difference in how much the holiday is celebrated. Each year, more and more places around town get into the holiday spirit, and they're also getting the decorations more accurate too. Check out this gorgeous tree in the lobby of a hotel on the other side of Shanghai where we enjoyed a little "staycation" one weekend.

TJ says "PRESENTS!!!"

Our tree was slightly less impressive, although the story behind it was quite amazing. Matt made a quick pit-stop at IKEA one night after work and cajoled the manager into selling him the very last Christmas tree they had: the display model. So he bought the tree, ornaments and all. Brought it home in the back of a taxi. Christmas champ!

the legendary "last tree in Shanghai" (and it was still November!)

We did a bit of decorating and baking this year to get ourselves in the holiday spirit.

TJ decorated these ones herself!

I remember making these with MY mom growing up

Matt and I did these ones

Buddha even decided to celebrate with some mini-trees

Santa came, but failed to assemble before delivery. So one elf built a kitchen while another ate a cookie.

...which were much enjoyed

snacks for Santa and his reindeer...

Matt hard at work on the kitchen

Santa's gifts for Tyler (she asked for a little kitchen)

Santa's gifts for Avery (Tyler told us Avery wanted a giraffe)

the scene after Santa's visit

On Christmas morning, both girls patiently hung out on our bed waiting for Mama and Daddy to shower and Bompa and Crystal to arrive. Probably the last year that's going to happen! Then we enjoyed a pleasant morning of slooooowly opening and playing with gifts, eating a two course breakfast (cinnamon rolls and fruit salad, followed by omelettes), and then in the afternoon Bompa made his special family recipe of Goulash. Matt calls it "dirty sock soup" because in lieu of cheesecloth, you can put the spices in a sock. Which we did.

Christmas morning cuties

breakfast round 1

Pat with the "dirty sock"

nothing says Christmas morning like a screwdrivers & Bloody Marys ;)

One of my favorite parts of the day was when Tyler gave her gifts to Avery. I explained to her the whole idea of presents -- receiving AND giving -- and we came up with the idea that she would go through her old toys and choose a couple things to give to Avery. Then she helped me wrap one and decorated a bag for the other. She's a very sweet big sister.

the girls being goofy

Sisterly Love

Tyler is a very enthusiastic big sister. Perhaps a little too enthusiastic, actually.

She is so eager to hug and kiss Avery that it often devolves into smothering. She has been caught numerous times with my breast-pump to her bare chest, attempting to "get milk for Avery". She wants to share every toy with Avery, even ones that might not be so appropriate for tiny hands or teething mouths. She has become insistent that Avery always be positioned to watch Tyler eat, color, read, solve puzzles, etc.

Tyler recently learned how to climb in/out of her crib, so we transitioned her to a "big girl bed." And then Avery was outgrowing her bassinet, so we transitioned her to the crib. I'm guessing you can see where this is going, as you're (hopefully!) less sleep deprived than I am... but next thing I know, Tyler is in the crib with Avery, trying to "cuddle" her as she naps. Yikes!

Last night over dinner, Tyler kept asking and asking and begging and whining to hold and feed Avery. So I decided to let her channel all of her sisterly affection in a more positive -- and supervised -- way. She was very patient, stayed focused, and was gentle and supportive with Avery. For her part, Avery seemed enthralled with Tyler, and actually drank an ounce of milk while on her lap.

I am really enjoying seeing the girls' relationship develop. Well, at least when it's sweet moments like this. I could do without the crib incidents.

May Mei

Today we welcomed our newest member of the family, baby Avery Mei. It seems fitting that she should be born on International Labor Day, since Val was doing plenty of laboring. The other holiday – May Day – is fitting too, since that’s how her middle name is pronounced.

But the name really has more to do with her birthplace (Shanghai, China) than her birthday.

In Chinese, the word we would write as mei has many different meanings, depending on what tone you say it with or what character you write. 

We had several in mind when naming Avery, including:

妹妹 (mèimei) means “little sister”, which is what Tyler was calling her from the time she was still in my belly.

美 (měi) is the basic single character for “beautiful”, and is often used in combination with other characters to become another positive adjective (like “wonderful”, “splendid”, “glorious”, etc).

It also just so happens that it’s the character for the United States, as in

美国 (měiguó) where guo means “country”, and if you add the character for “person” to the end, you get

美国人 (měiguórén) or “American”.

So all of those are pretty fitting I’d say. She’s a little sister, certainly beautiful and wonderful, and also American.

But if I was going to pick one hanzi (Chinese character) for Avery’s name, I’d probably pick this one:

梅 (méi)  which literally translates as “plum (blossom)”, but is a common second character in Chinese girls’ names. For example, Pat’s friend’s name is DongMei (“winter plum”), and our obstetrician who helped bring Avery into this world is HongMei (“red plum”).

Plus, I like that it’s just a radical (first part of character) away from the character

海 (hăi), as in 上海 or SHANGHAI!

So there you have it. Short name, long meaning. And hopefully a unique story she can carry with her for the rest of her life about her rather eventful start to life in this crazy place we currently call home.